If you were a Chinese guy, will you date and marry a white girl?
Ed Pultar from Georgia Tech posted a message on Yahoo Groups “Chinese girls and white guys: Question for Chinese“, which is very interesting:
My girlfriend is a typical USTC girl in that she dates a white guy like me. Chinese girls who date and marry white guys are quite common in the U.S., but I have never ever seen or heard of a Chinese guy date a white girl.
So I have a couple of questions for you Chinese:
1) Why do Chinese girls prefer white guys so much? When I was visiting China with my white American friends, we were mobbed like rock stars by Chinese girls.
My girlfriend said the majority of her USTC female classmates are dating or married to white guys. Do Chinese girls think white guys have more money, social status, or have better sex than Chinese guys? No offense to Chinese guys, but through my girlfriend I know so many Chinese girls from P.R.China (not American Born Chinese) who explicitly say they prefer white guys over Chinese guys.
Chinese men: does that piss you off when you see Chinese girls throw themselves at white guys? What will happen when China’s gender imbalance cause millions of Chinese men to never be able to find wives, and so many Chinese girls are already dating or married to white guys?
2) How come there are no Chinese guy/white girl relationships? Are Chinese men not interested in white girls, or have you tried dating a white girl but was rejected? Again, no offense to Chinese men, I just want to know.
I don’t mean to offend anyone, I am just curious.
Ed Pultar
Georgia Tech alum
I also found this interesting video on YouTube, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EpEipgoZ3Kk
After watched this funny video, I got the conclusion why Chinese girls marry white guys: I agree with Ed’s opinion, white guys have money and social status, girls like rich guys only, no matter what country he’s from, what nationality and what race he is, if you give her money, she wil do anything with you… 
But for Chinese guys, for myself, I don’t like white guys, if I marry a white girl, my father and mother will drive me out of home, and can never be back again. I am a traditional Chinese man, I don’t accept a marrage with a wite girl or any other guys from other countries, this is our traditional culture, many many guys have same opinion with me, but for a Chinese girl, things are quite different in our eyes.
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I’m a white woman and my boyfriend is chinese. There are a lot of asian men who date white women in big cities like NY. It is nothing unusual. Why would you think it’s strange? we are all people and should let love come as it may despite whatever color it shows up in. You say you’d never marry a white woman, but that is narrowing your options and you might miss out on some great women, you should be open to asian women, white women, black women, hispanic women ect. Otherwise it’s just you that loses out in the end.
Right On!
If you love each other, you will not care which country he or she is from, but who he or she is.
Some ppl say its for money, but I myself was dating a singaporean women and she liked me more then her boyfriend back home. I was jobless at the time and the guy was well off. She was caught in what seemed (from my point of view) to be an excruciating dilemma between me and him… but i might have been naive…
Anyway i preceipitated her decision against me by being mean to her. Let her have her fake superficial relationship if she thinks that is what matters. I pity her though… she has been brainwashed into these materialistic values….
To go back to the question… from what ive seen from chinese men, then tend to treat their wives like little girls, spoiling them, and teaching them lessons, talking down to them and telling them what to do and now to do, and giving them orders… its repugnant. Thankfully chinese women play the game and actually fool men into believing themselves and how superior they are to women (when theyre the ones being fooled)… Its also repugnant but you cant blame them, they dont have many weapons to fight the oppressive social pressure theyre subjected to.
@rolf, yes, there’s real true love between different races…
not true..i am asian too and i could get wha ever the race girl i like. i think it is all about confident and how u talk to them. i had date 4 blonde last year and they are all 8.5 and 9, so my suggestion is go and talk to girls and show whau got to girls.
hahaha…Chinese americans don’t date white girl- well you are wrong. My BF is chinese and I am as white as one can get….. We laugh about it because it’s not that common, but what the hell…..
No. I won’t date White girls.. I even don’t want to give a try. Guess what? I studied in USA University and my roommate is an American guy who is very nice. He told me some truth about American girls. He said that eight of ten american girls have sex disease in USA because they have messy sex activities with so many sex partners in the daily life. It makes me feel that American girls are dirty….. I don’t wanna be affected by sex disease even HIV. Therefore, I will definitely marry with our Chinese girls.
Another problem is that Chinese guys never treat love as a game. If they date with girls, they want to hold their hands to get marry in the future. My American roommate told me that most of White girls never treat love seriously. Even though a Chinese guy has married with a white girl, they will divorce within two years because of so many difference in cultures and different views to the World. Chinese parents want their sons have a stable marriage, that is why so many of them reject to accept White girls…
Woah man. That is so so so rude. I’m not even American (I’m Canadian), but still, just because your American roommate says that almost all American women have diseases, that’s complete rubbish! Not every white woman is completely easy! How insulting! How can you just stereotype people you even don’t know as being dirty, just because someone was running off their mouth? How do you know he’s telling you the truth? HOW can you just believe that a whole race of women is dirty like that? What a racist! I am so offended.
It’s true that marriage between very different cultures (a white girl with a Chinese man) can be very difficult because of the cultural gap and expectations of parents and such; but don’t rule love out becaue “white girls never treat love seriously.” What the hell? How do you figure white women get married then? Honestly, you really need to think before you open your mouth.
Hello Mia,
Thank you for your comments here! I don’t wanna be a racist and I am not completely a racist maybe just a little bit. However, do you know how astonished when I heard that my roommate who is an AMERICAN GUY told me about all of these information? He also told me that more than 4000000 female students in USA have unprotected sex activities after drinking alcohol every year. I was like what the hell it is…. He was suffered by three American girlfriends who had serious sex diseases or light degree disease before. It does make our asian guys scared about whether American girls are clean or not….. Sorry for that!!! Yes, it is hard to believe the truth. But, we have to admit that this is definitely a primary problem which will impact asian guys dating with white girls. Furthermore, we have to realized that United States always has the most population of serious HIV patients all over the world!
About another view that white girls treat love not seriously, it is also my roommate’s view. I just make a statement about his opinion. That is not my original opinion because I am not familiar with white girls!!!
Hmmm… I see. Well, at least you admit you’re a little prejudiced. But yeah, so what if an American guy told you that? So what? Do you think he knows everything? Maybe people do have “unprotected sex activities” too, but I don’t think that means that everyone does. The female students who do so are at fault for that, and all “white American girls” should definitely NOT be sterotyped because of the other American girls’ actions. Your friend suffering from diseases from his girlfriends shows that he also agreed to unprotected sex, and is therefore himself “dirty.” Maybe he was picking up unsatisfactory girls. That’s his problem! It doesn’t mean all American girls are like the horrible women he picks out! Perhaps he just has bad taste. By the way, the country that has the most serious cases of HIV or AIDS is Africa, not the U.S. Although, a lot of people in the U.S. should be more careful about sex.
Okay, sorry for sounding so nasty. I’m just a white girl who doesn’t want to be thought of as unclean > : (.
More and more Chinese guys will date Caucasian girls, point is that Women get international exposure faster ….
For overseas Chinese that were born outside of China, dating a Chinese women from China is seen as a negative. It is liked dating a villiage girl. It is similar to the idea what South Koreans see of the North Koreans. You might think that you were like a rock star in China. Don’t underestimate the Chinese girls, they are very smart in what they want to extract from you.
Guys it shouldn’t matter about the colour of her skin.
If your attracted to her then thats the end of it.
Of course meeting family might be differentt.
My Boyfriend is chinese and im british,, pale skined lol..
We’ve been together for a loong time, and no one cares, yes his parents at first wanted him to marry an oriental girl but soon they came around
Its not the colour of peoples skin that matter its the amount of love you give and recieve
x
Ok so this is for coolchineseguy.. What the hell is wrong with you. Asia has the most people so obviously you guys are having unprotected sex! In fact prostitution is legal in most of Asia! And most of your prostitutes are little boys! So talk about a fucked up race there you go.
And by the way I’m as white as a White girl can get and my Fiance is Chinese! And the only reason why marriages dont last is because the Chinese family is so rude and do not like to give up their old ways. They look down on whire people and yet you guys come to our country??? What about that huh? Come to Canada yet hate us! Like as id Asia is any better!
“I agree with Ed’s opinion, white guys have money and social status, girls like rich guys only, no matter what country he’s from, what nationality and what race he is, if you give her money, she wil do anything with you…”
Shame on you! So I bet your mom will do anything with anyone if she gets money from him? Have you met all the girls alive and on earth? sorry if I sounded offensive but hey, you deserve it.
and to that “cool” Chineseguy above,
“Chinese guys never treat love as a game.” Well, have you ever dated any chinese guys? oh of course not, I almost forget that you are straight.
You’re either a very PURE boy or a big liar.
I’m a Chinese girl and YES OF COURSE I love anything that is WHITE.
I was born for money and will marry Mr.money if possible.
Au revoir, and sorry for my rudeness.
I like anything, i fancy any women who are hot, sexy, friendly, funny, beautiful or cute. I have dated white women, black women, chinese women, indian women, middle eastern women, i dated so many women in my life and i am really don’t mind, any ethnic, any color it does not really matter for me. If you are a woman then i can see that you are a woman …
Out of the six Chinese guys in my year (I’m at a very small law school), two will only date fellow Asians – they both moved to Canada within the last ten years. The others were raised in Canada, all have white girlfriends, and have never dated an Asian. It’s not that uncommon.
By the way, my longtime boyfriend is Chinese from Hong Kong and has only dated white women as well. His parents love me to bits. We met at church and I certainly haven’t given him any ‘diseases’, and he’s got a really crappy paying job (that he loves and is brilliant at) – I guess I must be that single exception to the rule that white women are easy and gold-diggers.
Hi people, I’m Chinese and I would date/marry a white girl only if we really love at each other. I lived in Canada from the age of 8, and I am 19 now. I found that Canadian (white girls) are really nice, and I saw many of them are sexy/hot/cute. I would accept right away if a pretty girl ask me out XD. However, I think it’s wierd to ask a white girl out if you are Chinese, because it’s just unusual. There aren’t enough choice of Chinese girls u can date here anyway. Everywhere I go, I see white girls here ^ ^ so there are more chance that I will end up with a white girl HAHA.
I am a chinese guy, and I would accept white girlfriends and relationship. In fact, all races are accepted. People think that they should only date their own race are just not open enough.
What’s wrong with different culture? If you really like someone, you will accept the person and experience what the person experience. I find it awesome to date someone has different backgrounds.
I am not fully asian developed, nor white-washed/black-washed. I don’t even know what my original culture is as I am very interracial on socializing. So I guess there is no prejudice on my answer.
By the way, if I even date a girl that merely wants my money, I will just have monkey sex with her 3 times and dump her. fuck that mother-bitch
i’m chinese, born in canada. i only date white girls. it’s completely different for chinese not born in north america i would imagine.